In Book Two's feature on the invention of sex, we met anisogamy — the moment life stopped trading equal-sized gametes and split into big and small. That split is the sexes. Everything else we associate with femaleness — breasts, ovaries, the colour pink, motherhood — is a later, lineage-specific costume layered over a single rule: the female makes the egg. It is one of biology's most ancient and most portable ideas, and it shows up across kingdoms that otherwise have nothing in common.
Plants are female too, in the technical sense: a flower's ovule contains the large egg cell, and pollen carries the small sperm. Among insects there are literal queens — in honeybees, ants, and termites, a single reproductive female can be the only fertile female in a colony of thousands, the entire population her offspring. And the female is often the default body: in mammals, an embryo develops as female unless a switch (the SRY gene on the Y chromosome) flips it toward male partway through.
Then there are the rule-breakers. The New Mexico whiptail is an entire species with no males at all — every individual is a female that clones herself. Captive Komodo dragons have produced viable eggs with no male present, and so have bonnethead sharks. Clownfish run it the other way: born male, the dominant fish of a group becomes the breeding female, so that the cartoon hero "Nemo's father" would, in reality, most likely have turned into Nemo's mother. The female, it turns out, is not one thing. She is a strategy life keeps reinventing.